Wednesday, June 15, 2011

What I've heard/learned about being gay in rural Texas. . . see blog below

Read my post about being gay in rural america below:
When I moved to the county:
The first person who I told I was gay/bisexual was a fat dude who farmed peanuts, watermelon and owned a feed store. His family was wealthy. He had actually gone to my college. He asked me out after he met me. I didn't think my gf would like that, plus I wasn't interested, so I politely declined. Then I asked, "What do you think about me being gay?" I wanted to see if he was grossed out or was cool with it or had advise about being gay in a biggoted area. He  seemed cool with it all and didn't really have anything to say . When I told my gf I had told him I was bisexual, she got angry and told me that was slutty and that "you don't tell a dude that you're bisexual because it gives them the wrong idea and it gives them fantasies." Ok. Whoops. I'm sorry. I didn't even think like that.. My other lesbian friend told me the same thing- don't tell him you're bisexual.
Turns out 6 months later that this guy has been arrested for sexual relations with a minor and intent to distribute porn. He was paying 15 year old boys money so he could give the boys head. (Seems a bit backwards to me. Oh well. . . it's a messed up world.) He would chat them up on facebook late at night and invite them to his house to "play video games."   
That was one experience I had. So, my girlfriend still blames me and says I was leading a pervert on. Nuh Uh, girl.
The next person I told was the guy who gave me my tattoo: It turned out his son was gay and he was telling me several stories. He said at first he didn't like it, but the idea has marinated and he's a cool dad who looks out for his gay 16-year-old son. I told him I was actually getting part of my girlfriend's name incorporated into my tattoo. He acted like boys get bullied and picked on in the country if they are gay, and women. . . well I just shouldn't tell people because it could be hard for me as well.
The third person who spoke about being gay was an older veterinarian who I was interviewing. He began talking about female vets. He said the majority of people in vet school are women, but he sees that as a problem.  First of all, women want to get married and if they have husbands who move, they are likely to move cities. When they have kids they will take off of work and some will never return.  He said, "Now if she's a lesbian, that's a different story. She won't be moving for a man and probably not having kids."  Ha ha- that made me laugh what big of a difference he thought he saw between lesbians and straight women. I thought, "I want to have kids. And, I would consider moving if my significant other had a great place to move to."
Now, I don't recall ever holding hands or making out outside of my house, but I know I never tried to hide any affection. . . so I was nicely surprised when my female neighbor told my new neighbors that I was a lesbian. Way to go, girl! So, of course, when they meet me, they are like, "What's it gonna take to convert you?" Way to sound like assholes trying to change someone you just met. I knew they were just kidding and letting me know that they knew.
So. . . those are the  stories I can relate to about being gay in rural Texas.